Attachment Wounds and Healing Therapist in Venice

Heal the Patterns. Feel Secure. Love Without Fear.

Our therapy sessions will help you:

    •    Understand your attachment style (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or secure)

    •    Recognize patterns of emotional dependency or withdrawal

    •    Heal wounds from early caregiving experiences or past relationships

    •    Work through abandonment fears, clinginess, or fear of being “too much”

    •    Develop emotional regulation and secure self-soothing strategies

    •    Learn to trust, connect, and set healthy boundaries

    •    Rebuild relationships with authenticity and confidence

The way we attach to others is shaped early in life—through our relationships with caregivers, emotional experiences, and moments of connection or abandonment. When those early bonds are inconsistent, neglectful, or traumatic, they can leave deep emotional wounds that show up later in life as insecurity, anxiety, avoidance, or fear of intimacy.

As a therapist, I help individuals explore their attachment style, understand how it influences their relationships, and begin the process of healing—so they can experience love and connection with more trust, ease, and emotional safety.

You are not “too needy,” “too distant,” or “broken.” You’re responding to past pain with strategies that once helped you survive—and now, it’s time to thrive.

Let’s help you create relationships rooted in security, not survival.

I provide therapy in Beverly Hills, Brentwood, Venice, Marina Del Rey, Culver City, Mar Vista, Playa Del Rey, West Los Angeles, Pacific Palisades, Palms, and Santa Monica.

Have you ever felt rejected, abandoned, or unsafe in your closest relationships? These aren’t just fleeting emotions. They often point to something deeper—attachment wounds. At Steven Kilmann, LMFT, we understand the invisible scars these experiences can leave behind, and we specialize in helping clients heal through evidence-based, compassionate therapy.

What Are Attachment Wounds and How Do They Affect You?

Attachment wounds form when someone you depended on emotionally fails to meet your needs. These experiences usually start in childhood but can persist or even begin in adult relationships.

Common sources include:

  • Emotional neglect or inconsistency from caregivers

  • Experiences of betrayal, abandonment, or enmeshment

  • Romantic relationships where trust was broken

Effects of Attachment Wounds:

  • Difficulty trusting others

  • Fear of intimacy or closeness

  • Emotional dysregulation

  • Chronic anxiety or depression

  • Feeling unworthy or unlovable

How Therapy Supports Healing from Attachment Wounds

At Steven Kilmann, LMFT, we use a relational and trauma-informed approach. We create a secure space for you to safely process painful memories and build new emotional patterns.

Key components of our approach:

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

  • Somatic Experiencing

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Mindfulness and self-regulation techniques

These evidence-backed methods guide you to:

  1. Identify and understand your attachment patterns

  2. Process emotional pain stored in the body and mind

  3. Rebuild inner trust and create secure relationships

Who Benefits from Attachment Wounds and Healing Therapy?

This type of therapy is ideal for individuals who:

  • Struggle with recurring relationship issues

  • Experience anxiety in close relationships

  • Feel emotionally stuck or confused

  • Want to break free from patterns tied to early life trauma

Whether you’re facing loneliness, conflict, or fear of rejection, Steven Kilmann, LMFT, can help you find a path forward.

Attachment Wounds and Healing Therapist in Venice Beach

Located in the heart of Venice Beach, our office provides a calming, private environment. Clients from all over the area, including Venice, Santa Monica, and Marina del Rey, seek our specialized support for healing attachment wounds.

Why Choose Steven Kilmann, LMFT?

  • Over a decade of clinical experience

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

  • Deep focus on trauma, attachment, and emotional wellness

  • Individualized care based on your unique emotional blueprint

Clients often find lasting change because our therapy sessions go beyond surface-level talk. We address core emotional injuries that keep patterns repeating.

What to Expect in Your First Session

  • Warm, non-judgmental space to share your story

  • Clear explanation of the therapy process

  • Collaborative goal setting tailored to your healing

You can begin therapy at your own pace. Our goal is to empower you, not rush you.

Client Testimonials

"Steven helped me understand why I kept choosing emotionally unavailable partners. I've learned how to create secure connections and trust again."

"Working with Steven changed how I see myself and others. I finally feel seen and supported."

Related Services You May Find Helpful

Many clients who seek attachment wounds and healing therapy also benefit from:

  • Anxiety Treatment

  • Couples Counseling

  • Trauma Therapy

You can explore these related services through our anxiety therapy and couples counseling pages.

Take the First Step to Heal

If you’re ready to stop reliving old emotional patterns and start building secure relationships, therapy can help. Book a consultation with Steven Kilmann, LMFT, and begin your healing journey today.