Sexual Identity Exploration Therapist in Venice

Get Curious. Embrace Your Truth. Define Sexuality on Your Own Terms.

In our therapy sessions, we will explore:

    •    Questioning or understanding your sexual orientation

    •    Navigating attraction that feels new or confusing

    •    Coming out to yourself, loved ones, and in relationships

    •    How culture, religion, and family has shaped identity

    •    Addressing shame, fear, homophobia, and biphobia

    •    Healing from invalidation or rejection

    •    Feeling affirmed and seen—exactly as you are

Sexual identity is personal, fluid, and deeply human. Whether you’re questioning your orientation, coming out later in life, navigating new feelings, or simply trying to better understand yourself, exploring your sexual identity can be both exciting and confusing—especially in a world that often pressures you to have it all figured out.

As a sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming therapist and former medical doctor, I provide a safe, nonjudgmental space for you to explore your sexual identity at your own pace. There are no labels required, no boxes to fit into—just the freedom to be honest, curious, and compassionate with yourself.

You don’t need to have all the answers to begin. You just need a space where the questions are welcome.  Let’s help you connect with your truth—whatever it may be—with honesty, courage, and care.

I provide therapy in Beverly Hills, Brentwood, Venice, Marina Del Rey, Culver City, Mar Vista, Playa Del Rey, West Los Angeles, Pacific Palisades, Palms, and Santa Monica.

Understanding your sexual identity is a deeply personal process. If you’re asking yourself, “How do I explore my sexual identity in a healthy, supportive space?”—you’re not alone. A Sexual Identity Exploration Therapist can help you understand what you're feeling without pressure, shame, or judgment. This kind of therapy allows you to explore questions about identity, orientation, and expression in a safe, confidential setting.

At Steven Kilmann, LMFT, we work with individuals who are curious, uncertain, or seeking clarity about their sexual identity. Whether you are questioning for the first time, revisiting past feelings, or navigating change in adulthood, this space is created for you.

We offer Sexual Identity Exploration Therapy in Venice Beach for clients who want a calm, affirming environment to understand themselves better. Therapy can bring peace of mind, help you break through confusion, and offer tools to handle emotional stress connected to identity-related challenges.

Who Can Benefit From Sexual Identity Exploration Therapy?

Sexual identity exploration is not only for those in crisis. Many individuals seek therapy for curiosity, growth, or deeper understanding. Some common reasons include:

  1. Feeling unsure or questioning your sexual orientation

  2. Wanting to speak about your experiences without labels or expectations

  3. Experiencing internal conflict or confusion related to attraction

  4. Struggling with shame, fear, or isolation around your identity

  5. Wanting to come out but unsure how or when

Working with a Sexual Identity Exploration Therapist in Venice Beach gives you a place to explore your questions honestly and at your own pace.

Why Choose Steven Kilmann, LMFT, for Sexual Identity Therapy?

Steven Kilmann is a licensed marriage and family therapist with years of experience supporting individuals on identity journeys. His practice in Venice Beach is known for its welcoming, inclusive environment. Clients value his calm, present style and his deep respect for individual paths.

Here’s what sets Steven’s approach apart:

  • Non-directive, affirming therapy

  • Trauma-informed and LGBTQ+ competent

  • Focus on safety, trust, and empowerment

  • Experience with both adolescents and adults

Steven’s goal is to help you feel more grounded and clear, not to fit you into a predefined category. Whether you're exploring labels or moving away from them, therapy is your space.

What to Expect in a Sexual Identity Exploration Therapy Session

Sessions are built around your needs and move at your pace. There is no rush or pressure to conclude.

In your sessions, you might:

  • Talk through past experiences and current feelings

  • Learn how your identity interacts with family, culture, or relationships

  • Develop self-compassion and emotional regulation tools

  • Practice self-expression in ways that feel authentic

Clients have described sessions as “liberating,” “calm,” and “genuine”—a space where “it felt okay to be in-between.”

One long-term client shared, “Steven helped me talk about things I didn’t even know I was carrying. Therapy gave me language and confidence to live as myself.”

Common Misconceptions About Sexual Identity Therapy

Sometimes people avoid this kind of therapy because they assume:

  • “I need to already know who I am to start therapy.”

  • “If I go, that means something is wrong with me.”

  • “The therapist will try to label me.”

These are not true. At Steven Kilmann, LMFT, therapy isn’t about answers—it’s about clarity, safety, and support.

How Sexual Identity Exploration Therapy Can Help with Mental Health

Identity questions can trigger or worsen:

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Shame

  • Relationship challenges

  • Isolation

Therapy creates space to work through those feelings, reducing symptoms and improving quality of life. It's also common for therapy to enhance self-esteem and increase confidence in communication.

For example, a recent client exploring gender and sexual identity alongside grief found support through grief therapy as well, creating a full-circle approach.

Serving Venice Beach and Nearby Areas

Looking for a Sexual Identity Exploration Therapist Venice residents trust? Steven’s office in Venice Beach welcomes clients from surrounding areas, including Mar Vista, Marina del Rey, and Santa Monica.

The space is discreet, serene, and built for emotional safety. You can also opt for concierge therapy services or telehealth appointments for flexible care options.

How to Get Started

  • Schedule an initial consultation

  • Discuss your needs and goals

  • Decide how often and in what format you'd like to meet

Therapy doesn’t have to be lifelong. Some clients need short-term support. Others benefit from longer-term sessions. You choose what fits best for you.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Do I need a specific label to start therapy?
No. You don’t need to label yourself or come with clear answers. Therapy is a place to explore.

2. Will therapy change who I am?
No. Therapy helps you understand and support who you already are.

3. Can I talk about more than just identity?
Yes. Many clients explore related issues like relationships, anxiety, or stress.

4. Is this service affirming of LGBTQ+ and non-binary identities?
Yes. Steven has deep experience with a wide range of identities and practices affirming care.

Reach Out Today

If you're seeking Sexual Identity Exploration Therapy Venice, you don’t have to go through this alone. Contact Steven Kilmann, LMFT to start a conversation. Every journey is valid, and support is here when you’re ready.